Saturday, April 25, 2015

Money Wisdom

So he finally turned 16. A monumental age no doubt. There are so many lessons to be learned during this pivotal year, especially as we prep him for college. One of the first lessons that we need to teach is how to handle money. If you're reading this and you were in college, you can remember the hundreds of Visa & American Express offers you received before you made it to your dorm room. And don't forget the many banks luring you in trying to give you free checking. 

So here's a sure fire way I believe you can prepare your child on how to handle money: by you handling it well yourself. This is also known as modeling. There was a PSA commercial in the late 80's or early 90's where a boy was smoking. The dad walks in and asks the boy where he learned to do that. The boy responded, "From you dad. I learned it by watching you."  I'm amazed at how much our children mimic the things we do.  So give them something positive to mimic. 



I could write so much more on this, but I'd appreciate hearing how you're showing you're children positive money habits. I'm open to learn. Besides, I'm NOS...

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

"Daddy, You're On Your Way to Patterson!"

Have you ever been driving and you went into a daze?  Ever started to daydream as you see familiar sights?  This happened to me some days ago.  As usual, we had a fantastic time in New York visiting family and friends.  We were on our way back to Bowie, MD and just crossed over the George Washington Bridge heading south into New Jersey.  If you're familiar with that area, you know the Jersey Turnpike begins soon afterwards.  But there are a whole bunch of signs leading in a number of different directions.  I was in a fog after a long, but exciting day.  My wife was sitting in the front seat looking gorgeous and my two boys were in the back seat doing...who knows what they were doing.  Then out of the blue, my youngest said with conviction, "Daddy, you're on your way to Patterson."  Patterson was to the left and the Turnpike was to the right.  If we were to reach our destination in Bowie, MD, I would have needed to vear to the right towards the turnpike. I was headed in the wrong direction until my son helped to get me going in the right direction.  







Lesson:  well, there are two many right here.  Yet, let's try and name them.  

1.  Pay attention to the signs.
2.  Pay attention to your family.
3.  Pay attention...period.  

Who knows where we'd be right now if I had not listened to my son.  I had to give him props for being alert at just the right time.   And although I'm not a fan of backseat drivers, he was welcomed that day.

Fathers, pay attention.  Pay attention to yourself and those around you.  Pay attention to the needs of your wives and children.  Pay intricate attention to their feelings and desires, their wants and fears.  Pay attention to what makes them tick and what ticks them off.  And finally, pay attention to you.  I want you to be well enough so you can give the energy that your family needs and wants.  

I'm NOS (who is paying more attention to the road.  Plus, what's in Patterson anyway?!?)

Saturday, December 6, 2014

My Boys are the Bomb!

I feel like I need to boast on my boys. It's nothing that I have done: it is all to the glory of God. But man, I'm extremely proud of them. My oldest son recently took his faith to another level and was baptized.  Again, I know it's nothing I've done, but it's to the glory of God. 

And then I watched my youngest son serve at his school function. He found joy in helping others. He has always had a very compassionate heart.  Again, I don't think there's anything that I haven't done, but to the glory of God. 

They are maturing. They are growing up and growing up fast. They're starting to show that they have their own mind and conscience. I'm proud of them. What I need to make sure that I do is tell them how proud I am of them. And not just one time, but many times.

Just some thoughts. I am N0S.